I’m old enough to remember when being pregnant was the worst fear and you weren’t warned about the power plays of angry young men. I think that’s changed as fathers become more aware of their daughters. We accept that our daughters will be sexually active and we give them the information to deal with it.
I wonder if we do the same with our sons?
When I was a teenager I was a member of a Surf Life Saving Club and one of the seniors (probably a mere decade older than me) was a fantastic ex teacher who had been hounded from the profession. A girl had wanted to initiate a relationship with him (years later she’ll look back and wonder why, he was not physically appealling) and he had acted appropriately and walked away. I guess he hadn’t confided in the Principal though. The girl couldn’t lose face with her friends and made up stories about their exploits. Jealous “friends” then told their parents who complained and for this man it was “game over”. Such a waste.
I’ve spent some time recently with teenage girls, so much more self assured than I remember being. One has stopped dating because life gets too complicated. One started dating a boy her own age while her old class mates are dating “men” – and all were living in a small town. Her rationale is that the older guys hadn’t escaped to the city and are therefore losers while the young ones still have potential.
Harsh scrutiny when the guys probably just want to get laid and aren’t thinking too hard about why they date or who they date.